How to Approach Women You Like - Part 2

So we covered up to how to approach a woman and compliment her.

Now, a good trick that MIGHT give an indication of her interest is for you to ask her name and then REPEAT it followed by, ‘nice to meet you’. So, by example, you’ve approached WITH A SMILE and LOOSE demeaner, don’t be stiff. Then once she responds to the compliment with a ‘thank you’ or whatever, laugh lightly with her and then put your hand out and say, ‘what’s your name’ and she’ll say her name.

For this example, let’s say Sarah. NOW you REPEAT the name, ‘Sarah, nice to meet you’, and FIRMLY shake her hand, just like you would with a man – trust me, huge difference compared to a soft shake. BUT DON’T SAY YOUR NAME. CONTINUE the conversation. Now, if she detours from the conversation or pauses and asks your name, then she MIGHT be interested. This trick does not GUARANTEE she’s interested but sometimes it can.

It helps to be a little optimistic and kind of say to yourself, ‘well if she wasn’t interested, she wouldn’t really bother to stray from conversation and ask my name’. BUT SHE COULD ALSO JUST BE A NICE PERSON AND ASK OUT OF COURTESY.

So, take it how you will but don’t let it get to your EGO. By EGO, I mean don’t be that dude who sees a woman glance in his direction or has a woman approach him to ask something simple, like asking for directions or something, and then turn to your friends and be like, ‘she likes me bro, she wants me’. NO. SOME PEOPLE ARE JUST LOOKING AROUND AND THEY HAPPENED TO MAKE EYE CONTACT WITH YOU, IT’S NOT THAT SERIOUS BRO.

When you go about life not overthinking/giving a fuck about tiny little things like glances or simple asking for directions, it becomes so much easier. NOT GIVING A FUCK is the best habit you can develop.

When I say not giving a fuck, I mean that for SPECIFIC SITUATIONS and not something like not giving a fuck about her feelings or things that might impact someone else. But not giving a fuck about REJECTION is a good example, especially because it applies here. FUCK YOUR EGO, GET YOUR HEAD OUT OF YOUR ASS. You WILL get REJECTED at one point or another so since it’s inevitable, why bother giving a fuck about it?

Now, when I say CONTINUING THE CONVERSATION - what does this mean? It means that either you continue along the lines of your compliment or you say something else that’s going to last MAX 15 seconds. Something quick and easy but intriguing enough for her to want to continue.

An example of HOW you can continue from a compliment is - say you compliment her hair and it somehow matches her eyes or something, you can say something like, ‘did you mean to do that? Because honestly it works so well!’.

That’ll get her to say something in response like, ‘Yes I did’ OR ‘no I didn’t’ or something along those lines. In response, you can continue by saying, ‘well you’ve definitely got it right, I’m impressed, now you have to teach me hahaha’ – yea yea, if you read it, it sounds kinda corny but fuck it, whatever, if it works it works, otherwise DON’T GIVE A FUCK.

Now, if you don’t want to follow the compliment, then you need to think of a really GOOD and INTRIGUING topic. Whatever it is, it needs to be RELATABLE FOR HER. You’re probably crying right now like, ‘but how do I know its relatable, help me please’ – relaaaxxx.

Here you need to be a little attentive such as, look at what she’s wearing or what she’s carrying, maybe a book or what she’s DOING. Did you approach her at a mall, then what is she BUYING; did you approach her at the library then what is she reading, something like that and start a conversation relating to that but make it quick and keep it unfinished. The next paragraph will explain what I mean by unfinished.

Alright, you’ve approached – SMILE, LOOSE, you’ve complimented – NATURAL, you’ve asked her name and continued the conversation – TRICK NO GUARANTEES. NOW WHAT? So, during all of this, although it may have felt like HOURS, it’s only been seconds. It’s like when you did a 5-minute presentation in class, you don’t realize that 5 minutes were done when you said your fifth word.

So, what do you do now? The best thing is to just stand there and stare at her without speaking, complete silence for at least 2 minutes. IM JOKING YOU CREEP, STOP STARING ALREADY. So, seriously though, what’s next? You ask for what you’re there to ask for IDIOT. So far, she’s standing there, she hasn’t said she needs to go, it hasn’t become awkward yet, so you’re good.

Here, you need to be AS CASUAL AS POSSIBLE, you can’t say, ‘umm, sooo, likeee’ NONE OF THAT. The best thing is to start with is, ‘Anyways, I gotta run’ or anything along those lines, followed by, ‘but if you’re open to continuing our conversation over dinner/drinks sometime, I’d love to get your number and never actually text/call you’, alright that last part is me, because I’m weird/funny, so don’t say that. But use that as an example of HOW to say it not WHAT to say and you see how I put the UNFINISHED conversation thing by saying, ‘open to continuing our conversation’, that’s what I mean when I say UNFINISHED. A conversation that can be continued. You can say that whole line if you want but best is to keep it NATURAL and make a variation of that example so that it matches your PERSONALITY.

You’ll either get her number here or she won’t give you her number. Either way you LEAVE. If she does give you her number, just be cool, don’t start jumping and celebrating. Keep it CALM. Say ‘cool, will text you, have a great day SARAH’ be sure to SAY HER NAME and then LEAVE.

If she doesn’t give you her number for WHATEVER REASON, she doesn’t owe you an explanation. RESPECT IT and say something like, ‘ahh its all good, anyways have a nice day you fucking asshole, thanks for ruining my life’. Please don’t say that last part, it’s a JOKE. Just say everything up to the ‘have a nice day’ and then LEAVE. WALK AWAY. Go home and cry if you need to. But right now, just DON’T GIVE A FUCK. And that’s it.

Men, if you have more questions about women, feel free to ask, just know that I’ll likely go ask the women I know about your question and give you a good answer.

EXAMPLES

Personality: Funny

Example of compliment: Wow, the audacity you have to dress that well and make everyone else look like *whisper* shit… *shake head*… can you teach me how you do it? Maybe over dinner?

Personality: Smart/Clever

Example of compliment: I couldn’t figure out which one of us is dressed better, what do you think? If you give the right answer, I’ll pay for our date, and if you give the wrong answer, you have to go on a date with me.

Personality: Sweet

Example of compliment: I normally don’t bother people but.. you’re so pretty I just had to.. *wait for reply, then ask name and proceed as stated in the above paragraphs*