How to Ask a Woman for a Date

Pre-Date

Congratulations bud, you’ve made it. You finally approached a woman and successfully got her number. Now what? That’s it. Your life is complete, retire and live. SNAP THE FUCK OUT OF IT. You literally just climbed the first step of the staircase. Be better.

In this section, I’ll guide you on how to ask a woman for a date, what/how to text her or say to her in order to get/confirm a date. If you didn’t ask for her number with a statement such as ‘let’s have dinner/lunch/drinks some time’, then you still need to GET a date. When I say confirm, this means you did ask her for dinner/lunch/drinks as you asked for her number but now you need to CONFIRM when and where you’re going, what cuisine you’re going to eat if you’re getting food amongst a few other things. So, I’ll split this section into two parts – Getting a date and Confirming a date. ARE YOU READY?

But first, I’m going to give you some advice on texting. Since this is the first time you guys will be texting, its best to keep the small talk limited. Also, don’t ask too many questions about her because you don’t want to ask her everything now and then on the date you just sit there awkwardly sipping on your drink and chuckling because you have nothing to say. DON’T BE AN IDIOT.

You want to know a secret POWER MOVE that will literally make you superman for her?? Well not literally and it might not even work but it’s a great way to build confidence and just try something that might be a home run! You ready?!!! CALL HER TO ASK FOR THE DATE. You might even get her to marry you with this move. I’m kidding, don’t be that guy that’s already planning the wedding.

The reason why I call this a POWER MOVE is because WHO DOES THAT THESE DAYS. You’d be surprised at how refreshing it can be to see someone do something so uncommon. Let’s be honest here, YOU’RE NOT SPECIAL. You’re not the only guy who’s asking her on a date. But you can be the ONLY GUY who actually called her and that would definitely differentiate you from the other guys. Now, what do you do when you call her? Easy. You breathe loud on the phone for a bit, say nothing and then hang up the phone. IM KIDDING, PLEASE DON’T DO THAT. Keep reading.

Calling her to ask for the date

Keep it quick. Keep it simple. Keep it to the point. Pick a date that’s close to the day you guys met, no longer than 5 days and better to do Friday or Saturday as that’s when people are usually free. So as long as you met her before Friday or Saturday, even it’s a day before, you can ask her for the Friday/Saturday. Remind her who you are by saying your NAME and if you want, you can make it funny.

Another piece of gold here, MAKING FUN OF YOURSELF in moderation can be very attractive to a woman. It means you have the confidence to acknowledge your flaws and laugh at them.

So, for example, you could say something like, ‘hey it’s the guy with the dirty shoes but the amazing haircut who complimented you on your hair today’. Then, whatever she replies, which will likely be, ‘oh hey HAHAHA how’s it going?’, you GET TO THE POINT.

Say something like ‘Figured I’d just call you and see if you were free Friday at 730pm for dinner’, she may say yes and she may say no. If she says she’s busy, RESPECT THAT. ALWAYS HAVE A SECOND DAY READY. Offer her that day as well.

Now, if she says YES, end it with something like, ‘Great, I’ll pick you up’ or something funny, like, ‘get your stomach ready for tacos’ if you’re going to get tacos. Whatever it is you have planned to eat, MAKE SURE SHE LIKES IT. ‘But How do I make sure she likes it??”. GOD do I have to tell you everything??!! Alright, you ready for this? ASK HER.

After you say 730pm, ask something like, ‘by the way, do you like tacos?’ and LISTEN TO HER REPLY. If she says yes, then great, if not, then say, ‘Alright, well, be ready for 730 anyway, ill text you some options.’ This shows that you’re committed to the date while also showing her that you CARE ABOUT HER PREFERENCES.

Now, I’m telling you this because I’m a funny guy, as you clearly can tell. So I normally would say something like this if she said YES to tacos, ‘Okay great! Because if you said no to tacos, I was about to hang up and delete your number HAHAHA’ and if she said NO, then dude, just run. IM JOKING, NOT EVERYBODY LIKES TACOS.

You can say something like, ‘YOU DON’T LIKE TACOS?!!! This isn’t going to work out, bye’ Then tell her YOU’RE JUST KIDDING hahahaha. You might even be able to gauge here whether she enjoys your humor or not, because that way you can adjust your jokes accordingly or if you don’t like that about her then maybe she isn’t for you and that’s okay.

NOW WHAT IF SHE SAYS NO TO GOING ON A DATE WITH YOU whether it’s right away or even after you’ve asked her multiple times. Then it’s simple. Don’t ask her why not. Don’t ask her why she gave you her number. Don’t question it. Just say, ‘Oh, that’s alright, I respect that, it was nice talking to you, hope you have a great day’. That’s it and you’re done. MOVE ON. Buy some ice cream, put on a romantic movie and just cry. OR JUST DON’T GIVE A FUCK.

Texting to ask for the date

Keep it quick. Keep it simple. Keep it to the point. Honestly you can say exactly what I’ve told you in the calling section above. Then after you’ve received an answer, DON’T TEXT HER TILL A DAY BEFORE THE DATE.

If she texts you, that’s great because then you know she’s not busy but even then, don’t overdo the conversation. Leave some mystery/curiosity to it, give her vague answers because it’s better to save it for an actual face to face conversation. Otherwise, it’s alright to assume she’s busy.

Plus, you want to wait till the date to showcase your humor and GET TO KNOW HER. A day before the date, send her a SIMPLE MESSAGE. ‘Hey, just wanted to know if we’re still good for tomorrow?’ That’s it. She says yes, then you just say ‘Great, see you then!’. If she says she can’t then DON’T ASK WHY, just respect it and offer her another day. That’s it. If she still says no, then ASK HER WHAT DAY SHES FREE. Guys, this is easy conversation. Just keep it casual.

WHAT IF SHE KEEPS PUSHING THE DATE OR CANCELING? Well, what I advise is this, if she cancels or reschedules more than twice, then RESPECTFULLY tell her to schedule it. Tell her something like, ‘Hey, it seems that the days I’m picking aren’t working for you, I’d be open to you scheduling a day that works best for you and let me know’. THAT’S IT.

Don’t keep waiting for her reply. Don’t keep asking her what day. NOTHING. JUST KEEP ON LIVING YOUR LIFE AS IF YOU NEVER MET HER. The art of NOT GIVING A FUCK. Remember that. If she replies, that’s great, if not, it’s because you smell. IM JOKING. Maybe she’s not interested but she didn’t know how to tell you. It’s alright. You JUST MET HER. MOVE ON.