How to Approach Women You Like - Part 1

Now, the approach part of this would better apply in non-club situations. Places where you can actually hear each other.

First of all grow a pair of balls and actually approach a woman in real life. When I say approach, I don’t mean like a creep either. Have a smile on your face, be well kept, well groomed, wear something decent and don’t have a creepy smile. Keep it natural. If you really want to go with dating apps, I'll write some advice on that in another post but for now, lets keep it going.

The biggest thing for most guys is that they overthink the entire approach and that makes it all so robotic. It’s like, you’ll see a woman you want to approach, but from there you’ll begin to imagine the scenario, something like – alright, I’m gonna walk up to her, then I’m gonna say hi like this, then she’ll say this and blah blah blah – what happens here is that you get nervous about things that haven’t happened or might not happen that way and that makes you not focus on the things you should be doing. The truth is, there are two possibilities – she’s responsive or she’s not responsive – no, I don’t mean she’s dead when I say not responsive, if that’s the case then please call an ambulance.

There’s this great thing that works well in these scenarios to stop you from overthinking. As long as you read this entire how to approach women thing and have a general idea of what you want to do, this is how you stop from overthinking: Once you see a girl you want to approach, do everything you need to do within 3 seconds.

This means, you see her, you’re going to start asking yourself ‘should I go say hi?’, before this happens, just go 3 2 1 and MOVE. Now you’re there, she’s in front of you, she’s looking at you. You’ve got 3 seconds to say HI. FUCKING SAY HI YOU CREEP. Boom. You’ve said hi. But don’t stop there. The hi should be followed by an immediate compliment or something of that nature. Be NATURAL – I’m going to take detour from the scenario and tell you what I mean by NATURAL.

So, here’s the truth: some of you are funny and some of you are not. Some of you are sweet, some of you are not. Some of you are clever, some of you are not and blah blah. That’s fine. The biggest thing about keeping it natural is HONESTY. What I mean by that is, what was the first thing you thought of or noticed when you saw her? This question is POWERFUL. You’re all going to say something generic like, ‘she’s pretty or she’s beautiful’, BUT, if you actually take the time to think about what you REALLY noticed, you’ll realize it’ll be something like her purse, or her hair or her nails and for some of you fuckers, it’ll be the ass or tits – let’s not do that. Even if some women might find it a compliment, it clearly gives an impression that you see the interaction in a sexual manner – just don’t do that.

If you noticed just the tooth, FOCUS. You need to take some more time and look around! The eyebrow is missing too IDIOT. It's alright to take your time and notice the little things.

Now, the best way to figure this out is to go shopping or just go somewhere public and just have a look around. Then, when a woman catches your eye, immediately write down or just remember what you REALLY noticed about her, and if you aren’t thinking in a sexual manner, you’ll have a really GOOD answer, like I said earlier, ‘her hair, nails, purse, dress’, whatever.

THAT’S YOUR HONEST COMPLIMENT and trust me, women hear – you’re so pretty – all the time, so saying that won’t set you apart from every other guy that approaches her. BUT, if you comment on something that she legit put an effort into, such as ‘matching her purse with her dress, or coloring her hair in a way that compliments her eyes’ – write this down, I’m giving you gold for free here – then you watch how she lights up. READ THE EXAMPLES I’ve given for ways to compliment based on your natural personality. Guys, these are examples of HOW to say it not WHAT to say, although you can use it, it’ll be better to think of your own – it’ll be more NATURAL.

Now, what you’ve essentially done is made the environment COMFORTABLE for HER. Women get approached by so many creeps that their initial natural reaction is being on high alert. So first you need to be considerate enough to make her COMFORTABLE. If you successfully achieve this, you’ll see a more open response from her, such as her ‘thank you’ will be a little higher pitched and she’ll likely be smiling. Now, this is where you’ve BROKEN the ice.

The golden rule is this – after you’ve broken the ice, which I just told you how to do, be quick and talk for 20 seconds, then ask what you want to ask and leave.

Why? Because you’re likely approaching her when she’s doing something or when she wants to just chill on her own because its likely if she wanted to be with someone, she’d have a friend with her. Now, even if she’s not busy and you feel that she’s open to talking to you more, you still leave quick. Why? Because you show that you’re busy, that you have things to do but you actually took time out of your busy ass schedule to talk to her. This will indirectly flatter her.

Guys, always always always keep this in mind - not everyone will say yes or be willing to talk. When you genuinely accept this reality, EVERY TIME you approach someone, you won’t be as nervous as you would have been.

Don’t approach to convince. Approach to offer. When you go to the shop, what do you hate the most? A pushy fucking salesman trying to convince you why what he’s selling is good. Now think about when you go to an apple store, the product speaks for itself. That’s what you need to do. Talk to her in a way that you’re selling your personality without actually selling it. For example, if you decide to compliment her, maybe make it funny. This indirectly shows her that you have a sense of humor. Dress well/decent, this indirectly shows her you have a sense of fashion.

Don’t overdo it. Don’t script it. Keep it NATURAL – this. This right here. Not many people understand this. NATURAL means YOURSELF. I’m a funny motherfucker, but I’m also very charming and confident naturally. So, when I compliment someone, I naturally combine those attributes and almost always get a chuckle or laugh from a woman while also a ‘thank you’. Now, if you’re not naturally funny but say that you're naturally smart/clever, then make your compliment something smart/clever. LOOK at the examples I give in part 2.

See part 2 for more because this might be too long for you non-attention span having fuckers....